“There is a wisdom in trauma when we realize that our traumatic responses and imprints are not ourselves and that we can work them through, and thus become our true selves.”
- Gabor Maté
What I do.
How do I know if I’m struggling?
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Do you often find yourself thinking about a distressing event, even when you don’t want to?
Do you have nightmares or flashbacks about what happened?
Do you avoid places or activities that remind you of the traumatic event?
Do you feel numb or disconnected from people and activities you used to enjoy?
Are you easily startled, or do you feel constantly on guard?
Do you have trouble sleeping or concentrating?
Do you experience intense emotional reactions, such as anger or sadness, when reminded of the event?
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Do you often feel responsible for other people's happiness or problems?
Do you have difficulty saying no, even when you are overwhelmed?
Do you find it hard to recognize or express your own needs and feelings?
Do you feel anxious or guilty when you prioritize your own needs?
Do you stay in relationships that are harmful or one-sided because you fear being alone?
Do you have trouble making decisions without seeking approval or validation from others?
Do you often feel taken advantage of or unappreciated in your relationships?
Do you feel like your worth is tied to how much you can help or care for others?
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Do you feel like you can’t do anything right in your partner’s eyes?
Do you find yourself constantly apologizing or trying to avoid conflict?
Do you feel isolated from friends, family, or support networks?
Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting your partner?
Do you question your own memory or perception because of your partner’s denial or manipulation?
Do you feel controlled or restricted in your financial, social, or personal life?
Do you feel worthless, belittled, or demeaned by your partner’s words or actions?
Do you feel pressured into sexual activities against your will?
Do you experience physical harm or threats of violence?